Not everyone is prepared for the shock and emotional fallout that follows the death of a loved one. Some individuals can be left at an utter loss. No two mourning processes are the same. Feelings vary from sadness to depression, or from anger or numbness. The grieving process can give rise to these and many more.
These feelings may come in ‘waves’. You may find there are good days when you feel like you did before the loss. Or bad days when you are overwhelmed and everything seems impossible. You may suffer bouts of uncontrollable crying or periods of extreme exhaustion. Or you may wonder why you are not suffering, feeling no emotions at all.
Bereavement counselling helps process the many feelings that surface when you experience grief. Mourning is both a healthy and necessary process when an ending is painful. But, sometimes we need support in the process. One goal of bereavement counselling is finding acceptance. By finding a way to move forward following a loss, you can adjust to a new existence without the person you loved.
There is no ‘one size fits all’ solution to managing grief; no ‘timeframe’ for mourning. However, by working through your feelings you can ‘process’ all that has happened and all that has changed for you. This is where bereavement counselling really helps.
One model of bereavement counselling is Wodren’s Four Tasks.